Not moving soon
As we worked out details of the farm sale, it has become apparent that we will not be moving any time soon - October is the soonest. I would really have liked for Taryn to not have to change schools mid-year.
I find I'm having second thoughts about moving outside the city. Part of it is fear of isolation. I felt very isolated growing up on a farm. And while I can tell myself all day long that it was my mother's mental state, and not the farm itself, that was the main isolation factor, I also have to face the fact that I really do find relationships difficult and I may not be doing myself any favours being further away from people who might possibly want to hang around me. Then there's icky well-water and ickier still softened water, additional yard work, septic tanks and whatever else one needs to take care of.
Plus, now that we're becoming this in-shape couple, I find it's not that hard to add on to healthy measures because it is realistic to walk or bike to places rather than drive.
However, I'd love a big yard for the kids to play in, and I'd love to be able to use the yard without hearing lots of people cursing as they walk past my place. I'd love trees. I won't even consider a place outside the city that doesn't have trees. I really, really, miss trees. Did you get my tree thing, yet? Trees. sigh.
I find I'm having second thoughts about moving outside the city. Part of it is fear of isolation. I felt very isolated growing up on a farm. And while I can tell myself all day long that it was my mother's mental state, and not the farm itself, that was the main isolation factor, I also have to face the fact that I really do find relationships difficult and I may not be doing myself any favours being further away from people who might possibly want to hang around me. Then there's icky well-water and ickier still softened water, additional yard work, septic tanks and whatever else one needs to take care of.
Plus, now that we're becoming this in-shape couple, I find it's not that hard to add on to healthy measures because it is realistic to walk or bike to places rather than drive.
However, I'd love a big yard for the kids to play in, and I'd love to be able to use the yard without hearing lots of people cursing as they walk past my place. I'd love trees. I won't even consider a place outside the city that doesn't have trees. I really, really, miss trees. Did you get my tree thing, yet? Trees. sigh.
posted by Jude | 9:52 PM
2 Comments:
well, i'm glad you've finally come to your senses. i think there are plenty of trees in our area and houses that will fit your family! and well mannered neighbours too.
Living in the country is one of the best favors you can do for your children! We have raised our 5 on the farm, 3 are still there...and they have thanked us many times for living here. Yes, sometimes it's a pain, all the extra driving, can't spontaneously get together with neighbour kids...but...wow, they learn to work together and learn an excellent work ethic. Provided you teach them. You have to keep yourself disciplined in working together with them, but they learn and learn well! And so responsible later. There is so much work to do on the farm, that we have never yet bought a video game for any of our kids, they watch few movies, no t.v., and read like crazy! They're well-rounded, well-read kids. They are not nerds, either. Many times we have thought it would be more economical etc. to live in town, but you have to make a sacrifice somewhere. We are glad we have put in the extra cost of living in the country. The outcome is worth it! Don't feel sorry for yourself, think about the kids and keep busy with them. Very rewarding. Keeps your brain from self-pity as well. God Bless!
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